I left for
We stayed a night in the Double Tree Hotel and then on
No one was out right mean to me the first few days, and I think that was
because I was too scared to hardly talk to anyone. I do remember after the
first shower I took there I wanted to "scrunch" my hair, because it's
naturally curly, and I was told that I wasn't allowed to do that. I thought it
was strange, but I agreed. Maybe 2 or 3 days after I got there, there was an
assembly and Miss Debbie singled me and Olivia out. She asked me what Olivia
was teaching me, and if I liked her or not. I said I did, and that she was
teaching me the rules. The next thing I know, I'm told that someone else would
be my guide, that Olivia was not fit to have a new student. I don't even
remember who that was. (I don't remember much of my time there. I tried to
forget all I could, but for the sake of helping others, I will do my best.)
I cried a lot my first couple of days, and in one of the first letters I wrote
home, I said that the water spot on the page was real tears (it was) and I was
crying them because I hated my parents for leaving me there. That was when I
got labeled as a troublemaker and a crybaby. From that day on, everything
changed. I was not longer the "girl they would have no trouble with".
I became the child from hell that needed to be taught a lesson. If I was ever
seen in public crying, I was ridiculed. If I ever wrote a letter home asking
why I was there, I was ridiculed.
I remember the incident that cemented my humiliation and degradation. Before I
left home for MP, I had my hair cut and I had bought a shampoo that doubled as
a body wash. (I still remember that it smelled like bubble gum.) I got out of
the shower one day after using it as both and the shower monitor noticed that
the bag with my bar of soap in it was still dry. My OG looked as if she wanted
to die because she had a "dirty" new student. I was taken to Mama's
office where I tried to explain that I could use it as both, but they just
laughed me off. I even tried to show them the bottle, but they would have none
of it. Debbie said that if I wasn't going to wash myself that she would wash
me. I told her that I did wash and she said I was lying, and I got my first
swats. Ten, to be exact. Then to top it off, she took me to the showers in
First Dorm and made me get back in where she proceeded to watch me as I
showered again. She also said that I had bruises on me from the paddle and that
was a good thing because maybe whenever I sat down I would remember that I
would get punished for lying. Needless to say, they decided that I was not to
be trusted anymore. That is also when I got the famed "soap-box necklace"
and the baby chair. They told me that if I couldn't bathe like an adult, I
needed to be reminded by the soap boxes around my neck and that I needed to sit
on a chair to remind myself that I was a baby who couldn't wash. Talk about
humiliation. I was forced to wear and carry those things for at least a month.
I can't remember how many times I stood up in church and said that I got
"saved" or that I "rededicated" my life to God. One night
Sam even said to me, "Are you sure this is for real? Are you ready to get
rid of the soap-boxes?" Even now, I cringe.
I had so many orientation guides when I was there, I barely remember them all.
A few, the nicer ones, stick out in my mind. Jen Stew was one of the guides
that made me feel human. While I was on orientation with her, I think I tried
my hardest to conform to MP rules because I didn't want to hurt her. Carrie
Dillard was also nice to me, and they took me away from her because we had too
much fun together. I remember one OG I had that scared the hell out of me. Nerissa
Pasaag tried to boss me around like I was a puppet. She told me I had to call
her "Miss Nerissa" and that I had to treat her like she was a worker.
One of the many times that I was to get swats, I told her I needed to go to the
restroom, and she wouldn’t let me. I really had to go, and I was crying by the
time we got to the office. Mama (Mrs. Wills) asked me what was wrong, and I
told her I had to go. Nerissa said that I was lying, that I just didn't want
swats (duh...who does?) and that I didn't have to go at all. Well, Mama told
her to take me back to the dorm to go. By the time we got there, I was so
terrified of NERISSA (not the swats OR Mama) that I couldn't go. To make a long
story short, she wasn't an OG much longer.
On the coveted day that I gained my "freedom" as a single girl, I
swore to myself that I would stay out of trouble. I tried my hardest. I did
well in school, I learned my Bible verses, and I pretty much kept to myself. I
don't remember what I did to get in trouble again, but once again, I found
myself in trouble. This time, though, they told me I had to write the word
hateful 5000 times. Ugh, that took forever, but I finished it. I thought that
then, I would be home free. Little did I know that my life, as I knew it even
at MP, was about to change.
From that time on, no matter what I did, I got in trouble. I was on silence, I
had a baby chair, you name it, they did it. I remember once while I was on
silence, I was up at the "sinks and counters" and I knocked someone’s
foundation off the counter and it broke on the floor. I felt awful, but I didn’t
want to get in more trouble by talking and telling her I was sorry, so I went
to find the nearest worker to get permission to tell the girl I was sorry. I
found Mary, told her what happened, then got chewed out because I didn't help
the girl clean up right away. OK - maybe I could have cleaned up first, but
come on! All I wanted to do was apologize and offer to buy the girl more!
I remember when Will Fertile was killed. (For those who don't know, Will was
part of a group that planned to take over the school. He changed his mind and
the other boys didn't want him to tell, so they murdered him.) It hit home for
me because I was from
While I was there, my brother got married. I was told that I was going to be
allowed to go, but then they changed their minds. I cannot get that back. I
can't go back in time to see my brother get married. What kind of people keep a
family apart like that?? Certainly they aren’t humane.
When my mother finally realized all that was going on, and to the extent that
it was, she told the school that she was coming to get me. At the time, I had a
perpetual writing assignment from Mama. I was to write 200 lines a day, for 7
consecutive days. If I missed a day, I had to start all over. This had been
going on for probably 2 months, and I had been told I was not allowed to
exercise with the others, or go swimming. I went from 136 lbs. up to 150 lbs.
in 2 months. The day my mother took me out of that hell-hole would have been my
7th day of writing lines. Ironic, isn’t it? I also was not told until she was
an hour away that I was going home. I panicked. I didn't think I was ready to
go home!! Jen Stew came to talk to me while I was packing my things, and she
gave me a stuffed mouse. (I still have him too.) I had her address and we have
kept in touch to this day. On
On my home visit, I had found a church that barely passed MP standards. I
settled for it because it was the closest I could get to MP within a hundred
mile radius. Later on, that church became my home away from home, as well as
the church school I graduated from. When I first got home, I had to go to
public school, because my parents were broke from MP and couldn't afford my
church's school (HCA). What a culture shock. It was there that I learned about
all I had missed in the last 2 years. I learned about OJ, the internet,
Princess Di, and a multitude of other things, from an 11 year old, the only
person I felt I could relate to. I was 15, and I was being taught by an 11 year
old. By the end of my sophomore year, I was back in my shorts, my jeans, and
trying to figure out who I was away from MP. Because I was bitter about MP, and
because I had never really changed, I went right back to my "old"
self. I transferred to HCA my junior year, and things started looking up. I
made some friends and started to come around. However, I could not believe that
I was not worthless and insignificant, as all at MP had told me.
Since I have left there, I have been diagnosed as bi-polar. This diagnosis only
came after attempting suicide. With the help of some very good friends, I once
again started the climb back up the self-esteem ladder. It has not been easy,
and many of these memories I would have liked to have forgotten completely, but
for the sake of other girls going through what I went through, I must tell my
story. Now I am married, with a wonderful husband who loves and supports me, a
beautiful baby boy, and a wonderful relationship with my mom which has become
my lifeline. I am on meds now, to help balance my moods and control the
depression. It helps, but it's still hard. For a long time, I blocked MP. I
didn't want to remember the hell. Now, as the can of worms is opened around
them, I realize that the person I was before, as far as my self confidence
went; well, that person will return some day. For the rest of me, that’s gone.
I can't get my innocence back. I can't erase the permanent marks made both on
my body and on my soul from this hell, but I can sure try to stop them from
hurting someone else. I'm sorry if this is long-winded, but I wrote what I felt
I needed to be said. My love and prayers go to all the other survivors out
there. Let's stick together to end the hell we all lived.
Rebecca Newton (was Carper)
student from 95-97